it's a crappy thing to have to do, but for both of your sakes, you should do it sooner rather than later. Otherwise you'll just sit around miserable and he'll get his hopes up more and more. And soon enough he's going to notice that you're not really into it and start getting stressed too...
So, here's my suggestion. Next time you see him you HAVE to do it. The sooner into your meeting with him the better. And when I have to say something I really REALLY don't want to say, I always *force* myself to say it by doing this:
Take one deep breath. Take a second. Take a third and on the exhale say, ';So, um....';
then just kinda let it flow from there... you could go to:
-- i just don't think this is working out
-- i think we should break up
-- I don't think I can be in this relationship anymore..
etc.
It's getitng that ';So um'; out that's the hardest for me.. but once you blubber out a few lines of how you feel, then it's pretty much over... i mean, you'll ahve to sit around and talk a bit after that, but really once it's out, it's out and just feels better. Kinda like pulling a bandaid... it hurts really bad to pull off, but once it's done you just kinda feel that burning... then it's over :)
good luck!How do you break up with your boyfriend?
say no more
Just tell him things aren't working out but you enjoy his company.
I think we should break up. You gave me a rash
nothing speaks better then your heart, just tell him the turth rather than not tellign him and making yourself miserable just say that you want to be friends as clich茅 s it my sound you really do just wwant to be friends.
you have to tell him straight up. right now you're being cruel leading him on like this.
Fifty ways to leave your Lover
';The problem is all inside your head,'; she said to me
';The answer is easy if you take it logic'lly
I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be, fifty ways to leave your lover.';
She said, ';It's really not my habit to intrude
Furthermore I hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued
But I'll repeat myself, at the risk of being crude
There must be, fifty ways to leave your lover';
Fifty ways to leave your lover.
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free.
Oo slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
You just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free.
She said, ';It grieves me now to see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do to make you smile again';
I said, ';I appreciate that, and would you please explain about the fifty ways?';
She said, ';Why don't we both just sleep on it tonight?
And I believe in the morning you'll begin to see the light';
And then she kissed me, and I realized whe probably was right
There must be, fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover.
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Oh you hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free.
Slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to coy, Roy
You just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free.
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY
U cant go wrong if u are talking from your heart
- it might pain him at first but i don't think anyone likes to be dragged along, its embarrassing an time wasting for the poor person because the don't know the truth %26amp; finding out later will hurt much much more
goodluck : ) with ur decion
There's really no easy way to do it. Whichever way you put it, he's going to take it as 'she doesn't like me'. Just tell it to him straight, say ';I enjoy being your friend, but i don't sense any romantic spark between us'; - he might need a while to cool down, but hopefully after a while you can go back to being great friends. In the future be careful about dating your good friends, cos it gets tricky.
Oh man have i been there, I was in the same situation and he was being really clingy, so i told him that we should take some time apart, after a while i realized that we really were good together, but it was too late and now he hates me,
Give it a bit more time, and try to see the realtionship in a different perspective, dont be too rash and if you still feel the same after a while, tell him the honest true ';I feel that we shouldn't ruin what we have as friends, because I cant create feelings that aren't there'; something along those lines, Hope you get though this okay :)
aaah man. I wish I could feel what he feels again...Young love is something that is wonderful and fleeting at the same time. You need to tell him the truth. It might hurt him, but if you are honest with him it will be appreciated in the end. Everyone will have the ';love of their life'; several times, and everyone will have their heart broken more than once. You need to be true to yourself and true to him too. Tell him you want to be friends, but if it doesnt work out dont be upset, everyone needs time to heal. Good luck,
I had to do this once sux but you should tell him how you really fill and stop lieing to him because he's the one that is gonna get hurt in the end because all your doing is leading him on .
why did you say yes when he asked you out in the first place just be nice and tell him that you fill like you would make a better friend then a girlfriend and that you don't wanna hurt him try leting him down easy and just let him know you would love to be his friend ....
he sounds like a good guy good luck ...
i think your definition of ';love'; is 'lust'. you can still love someone romantically for his inside, not just his outside.
this situation is hard and isn't easy. for a start it is good that you care about his feelings and would like to continue on with friendship, but you have to do what is right for you. tell him how you feel about this relationship and the difficult situation you are in. it is recommended to break up with him face to face because breaking this to him over text, phone, friend, msn etc. this will show that you don't have respect for his feelings. He might not handle it well but in time he will understand.
The guy means well and he is very honest with you and his self esteem is very high when he is with you but when friends are about he just stays quiet and get shy, he is a very good guy it will be a shame if you break up with him, He things the whole world of you, and shows you that he cares about you, If you think he is a dork and you end your love relationship you will break his heart cause he is very sensitive, and need you a lot. Just think it over befor you decide to part with him
Beat him with a sack of oranges while he's sleeping, leaves no bruises
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